Change

"Change is inevitable. Change is constant."

Benjamin Disraeli

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Engaged

I feel a lot better today. I am going to wait and see if things pan out with Natalie. I truely hope things work out with us.

Engaged

Last night when I got home, I saw a note from Natalie. It was a sweet note, but after I read it I bawled right there on my steps for 2 hours.

Engaged

This morning I did not want to do anything for ovious reasons. But I figured I have to go on with life, and let myself heal slowly. On my way to work I dropped off a good-bye letter and a rose at Natalies house.

Engaged

Natalie called a little over a half an hour ago and called the Wedding off. When she did that it felt like she ripped my heart out.

Parents

Took my parents to go meet Natalies family. We had a very good visit for about 2 hours.

Tap Dogs

Last night Natalie took me to see Tap Dogs. It was great. I am was very impressed with their tapping dancing skills. They also did a ton of orginal things. I could deffently tell they enjoy their job. I would defently watch them again.

DOn't quIT

"DOn't quIT (note capitiliztions)"

Anonymous

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Engaged

Monday I asked Natalie Yockey to marry me. She said she really wanted to but not sure yet. I asked her again on Friday, she almost said yes. Today, Saturday morning she told me yes. It made me really happy.

Wrangler

One of my new speakers have not been working lately. My dad and I took some time to see what was going on. We did some dignosing, and it ended up that one of the terminals in the speaker box came off. It was nice that it was an easy fix.

Relationships

How to Have a Healthy Relationship

There are reliable tools that can be used to create a healthy relationship, many of which have not been taught in our culture. If you want to have a really healthy relationship, follow these simple guidelines.

Steps

1. Tell the unarguable truth. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or their partner's. Telling a lie creates a disconnect in a relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. Withholding the truth (an issue that's come up three times or more without you saying anything) also constitutes telling a lie. Saying "That shirt is ugly" is NOT telling the truth because it's arguable. Someone else could have a differing opinion and could argue about it. Saying "I don't care for that shirt." is inarguable because it's a personal experience. Here are some examples of telling the unarguable truth: "I felt scared when I saw you talking to her at the party.", "I feel angry.", "I think that guy has feelings for me."
2. Make and keep clear agreements. For example, if you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if you're going to be late. If you agree to have a monogamous relationship, keep that agreement and/or tell the truth about any feelings you're having about someone else BEFORE you act on them. Keeping agreements shows respect for yourself and your partner, as well as creating a sense of trust and safety.
3. Be responsible (new definition!! Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. It does NOT mean you are to blame.). There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it, and get curious about how you might do it differently next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, instead of trying to change your partner, get curious about how this situation is similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself.
4. Know that relationships are the playground of life. The most important learning takes place within relationships. Each relationship has important information for you to learn and grow. For example, do you often feel "bossed around" in your relationship, or "powerless"? When a relationship isn't working, there is usually a familiar way that we feel while in it. We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. In order to have a healthy relationship, it is important to learn our own lessons, and share with our partner what we're learning. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it keeps getting better and better.
5. Appreciate yourself and your partner. In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. Start by generating appreciation in moments of non-stress, and that way when you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation, it will be easier. One definition of appreciation is to be "sensitively aware of", so you don't necessarily have to be sugar-coating anything. Here are some examples of appreciation: "I can see that you feel really sad about this.", "I appreciate that you are willing to tell me how you feel.", "I'm appreciating myself for sticking with this issue until it's resolved and we both feel good about the outcome."
6. Lastly, you can either choose to be "Right" or you can have a Relationship. You can't have both. Most people argue to be "Right" about something. They say "If you loved me, you would...". They argue to hear the other say "Okay, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being right, understand that you will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences.

Tips

• If this all sounds a little different to you, it's likely because you haven't heard it before. But then ask yourself, how many successful role models have you had for healthy relationships?
• Be willing to learn from every interaction, to have fun!
• Portions of this article are based on the works of Drs. Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks.
• Maintain your romance and sexlife. If you have kids, rent a room every now and then.

Interbank FX

The last couple of days I been butting a lot of over time taking care of a big client for Interbank FX.

Today

"One today is worth two tomorrows."

Benjamin Franklin

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Divorce

Yesturday was the one year mark from when I left my ex.

Experience

"Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing."

Oscar Wilde

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Skiing

Went Skiing on Saturday with Natalie, my Uncle David and his daughter Amanda, and my friend David (we do computers and forex together). It snowed the whole time we were there. But it did not bug me, because with my new mask and my ski goggles, my whole face was covered. Near the end of the day, Natalie and I took a little break, to warm up our fingers. While warming up, someone stole my ski goggles. If you go skiing be careful with your personal items. It sucked that someone stole my ski goggles, I guess it is time to get some upgrades on my goggles. On the way home, I saw three vehicles get pushed out of Alta's parking lot. The funny thing, one of them looked like an SUV. I had no problems, I put my Wrangler in 4 Wheel Low. I might not have even needed to do that, but I figured why risk it.

Head Gear

I lost my head gear in one of my moves in the last year or so. I have put it off getting another one. But I am going skiing with friends tomorrow and it is supposed to snow, so I figured it is time to get a new one. I got it from Wasatch Touring, my favorite bike stop. I got a Mountain Hard Wear. It is made some wind resistant material, and it is thin. Another thing I like is that it has cut outs for the nostrils and a small one for my mouth.

Majority

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect."

Mark Twain

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Church, Talk

Kelly Sheffield, a counselor in my singles ward Bishopric, asked me to give a talk on "Personal Scripture Study" on Sun 12 Mar 2006 during the sacrament meeting.

Wisdom

"The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook."

William James

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Interbank FX

Things went very well at work, Interbank FX, this week. In fact they gave me some more responsiblities.

Wrangler

I had a high performance Muffler installed on my Wrangler today. I needed a muffler because of my Accident a while back ago. I finly got around to taking care of it. I figured I'd pay a bit more for a high performance one. I consider it a long term investment.

Life

"Life is not an exact science, it is an art."

Samuel Butler

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Asking

Today at work, Interbank FX, held the elevator open for a couple of girls. I noticed that they had a couple boxes of cookies, so I jokingly said, "you know, there is a toll for holding the door open for you." And to my surprise they gave me a box of cookies. I shared the cookies with everyone at the office.

Life

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on."

Robert Frost

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Sister

Last night I went with my mom to visit my sister and her fiance. It was a nice visit. I need to do that more often.

Wrangler

At the end of my date on Saturday my Wrangler's Starter gave out, but I was not sure if that was the case at the time. At first I was hoping it was that my battery was out of juice. That ended up not being the case. I left my Wrangler at my dates house. Sunday after church my parents went with me to get my Wrangler. Luckly my Wrangler is a stick and we were able to push start it. On the way taking my Wrangler home to fix the starter, I ran out of gas. Man, that was stupid. My parents got me some gas, then we pushed started the Wrangler again. When I got home, I started taking the Starter off from the Wrangler. Before I bought a new one, I had it checked. This may sound weird, but I was glad when it failed. Why? Because then I knew what was wronge. I would have been real surprised if that was not it, in that we push started it. The starter was a lot easier to put in then take out. It was mostly because of the rusted on bolts.

Wrangler

Saturday morning my dad and I worked on getting my speakers hooked up. Because of all the little details, we got them partly hooked up. We did get to the point that my sound bar speakers are working. I am happy. Now I can listen to the scriptures while I go to work, one of my New Year Goals.

Happiness

"The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things."

Henry Ward Beecher

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Basket Ball

Last night I coached "my" Basket Ball Team again. They did tremendously better. I tried to have some practices with them thru the month, but never quite worked out. But from the sounds of it they took the iniative and practiced on their own. In fact they did so well, I took them out for shakes at Article Circle on me. The way they are playing now, they have a good chance of going regions. We are worried about one team beating us.

Comedy

"Comedy is simply a funny way of being serious."

Peter Ustinov

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Time

"Time is what we want most, but what we use worst."

William Penn

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Love

Is it better to love or not to love at all?

It is better to love and get hurt, then not to love at all.

Country Swing Dancing

Last night I gave myself a treat, I went Country Swing Dancing. Time wise, probly was not the best thing to do, but it was fun. I have not been able to go for a while because of my busy life. I'd like to go more regulary again, I'll see what happens.